Albert and Lisa Trevino were married in Conroe, Texas April 11, 2009. Lisa compiled and wrote the following Wedding Ceremony with the Holy Spirit. She was guided to select a few pieces from Marianne Williamson, Neal Donald Walsh and A Course in Miracles and reworded and added what she was guided to. Everything written here is what Albert and Lisa wanted to be said at their wedding. It was a breathtaking experience and several people have asked for copies of this for their own collection and/or weddings!
If this moves you or you wish to use it for your wedding, please leave a comment. Namaste!
Processional - the bride and the wedding party walk up the aisle to the altar, accompanied by music played by harpist
Invocation – opening prayer after moment of silence
Beloved Creator, Essence of Love, and Source of Hope, Open our hearts and fill us with Your Presence. You graciously give to us the longing for love and the capability of loving, and we give you thanks for Lisa and Albert, for their beautiful hearts and willing spirits, and for the example of love that they embody here today. Elevate us to an awareness of the Sacred and the Eternal, as we celebrate this miraculous moment in their lives. Be with them on this joyous occasion of showing their love and making their vows; and be with us, their witnesses, that we might all be inspired by the blessings shared today. We know you are present within us and so we say in Gratitude – Thank You.
Welcoming - Good evening! We gather here today to witness and celebrate an act of deep love. Lisa and Albert, in their devotion, respect, and love for each other wish to unite in the holy bond of marriage, and to dedicate themselves to each other's happiness and well?being as life mates and partners. On behalf of them, I welcome you all.
Although this is their day, it is also a tribute to all of you. For knowing you and interacting with you has helped to make our Bride and Groom who they needed to be to find each other. They would like to thank you all for that. All of you are the threads of which are woven the tapestry of their lives. Each one of you is an important piece in the story it tells. It is the fabric that they wrap around themselves and take comfort in when the world seems cold. And on days like today when everything is right in their world, that tapestry is proudly spread out and displayed for everyone to see, with all the glorious colors and textures that your diversity adds. You all hold a place in their hearts reserved for those that they have chosen to call 'Family' and “Friends” and they are deeply grateful for each and every one of you here today.
Foundation - Albert and Lisa, we are gathered here to celebrate your marriage. This day you have chosen to affirm your love for each other with spoken words, and with the sharing of symbols.
Marriage is a commitment to life...to the best that two people can find and bring out of each other. It offers sharing and growth no other human relationship can equal, a physical and emotional joining that is promised for a lifetime.
Within the circle of its love, marriage encompasses all of life's most important relationships. A wife and husband are each other’s best friend, confidant, lover, teacher and listener. There may come times when one partner is heartbroken or ailing, and the love of the other brings true healing.
Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life. Happiness is fuller; memories are fresher; commitment is stronger.
Marriage understands and forgives the mistakes life is unable to avoid, and yet it encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences, and new ways of expressing love through the seasons of life.
When two people pledge to love and care for each other in marriage; they seem to create a spirit unique to themselves, which binds them closer than any spoken or written word.
What IS a holy relationship? One in which two people hold space for each other, allowing each of them to find and express what they could not before or otherwise express, to be fully who they truly are deep inside and to be loved and accepted at that holy core.
We are healed in relationships in such a more powerful way. It is when two people come together and ask for the highest good to be revealed through them so that the other might grow, heal, unlearn and find peace, love and be loved, understand, release and know, and be able to be present in a more profound way than ever before in that person’s life would have been experienced.
In such a relationship, each performs the miracle of reminding the other we are not the person we think we are, limited by the world as we think it is, but rather as eternal and infinite as love itself. To hold and be held… To love and be loved… To gaze upon another’s eyes and see truth and compassion… These help to remind us to look further within ourselves past the blocks to love’s presence and be in our oneness with all that is. Lisa and Albert have not only found that within their holy relationship, but have found that with all of you in ways that have helped them to grow into themselves and toward each other. Your presence at this ceremony means a great deal to this couple – a symbol of the love they know from those of you here in body as well as those who cannot be, but are in spirit.
In all of our healing relationships, we are asked to step out of isolation and darkness, to let go and let heal the corner of the mind that holds fear as its God be cleansed with the truth and love only a power greater than ourselves can accomplish. It is letting our light shine everywhere, loud and proud, and visible.
At this time, Lisa wishes to share a quote by Marianne Williamson.
“We are not held back by the love we didn't receive in the past, but by the love we're not extending in the present.”
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us, it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
(back to Teresa)
Marriage is a gift from God, a miracle. It is obvious that you already know some of the great blessings marriage has to offer. It is an opportunity to feel the joy of taking care of someone who takes care of you, to be challenged towards growth yet gently nurtured, to love deeply and receive it in return. It is about trust, friendship and having a partner to share all life has to offer. It is a commitment to participate in a process of mutual evolution, understanding and forgiveness.
Marriage is not a place to hide from the world. It is a safe place to grow and become wiser. It is a place to evolve; so that you can go out in the world and make a difference by spreading the joy and wisdom that you have found with each other. Together in this marriage, you shall contribute more fully, for you both shall be more full.
A true spiritual marriage is an act of metamorphosis, a profound mystery of creation and rebirth, as two become one. It is not a giving up or loss of oneself, but rather a giving over of oneself to something greater ? a transformation of self in which each one can say, "I am no longer only I but also we." It allows us to even more recognize our ONENESS. It is a process in which each can be challenged to discover new possibilities in themselves and each other.
In such a marriage, the wedding ceremony is the gateway into this mystery. For the lives the two of you have lived up until this moment are, in some sense, now truly completed and over. Together you now live within the creation of something wholly new and transcendent, something which has never existed before ? your miraculous marriage ? an expression that is at once public and private, precious, sacred, and truly unique to the two of you. In this act, you open yourselves to a fuller experience and expression of the great, vast miracle of love and share your joined light with the world. Apart you were each a lit torch, where now together you share a bonfire of love, power and presence.
No ceremony can create your marriage. Only you can do that ? through love, patience, dedication, perseverance ? through talking and listening and trying to understand ? through helping and supporting and believing in each other ? through learning to forgive, learning to respect and appreciate your differences, and learning to make the important things matter and to let go of the rest. What this ceremony can do is to witness and affirm the choice you have made to begin a new life today as husband and wife.
Now, Barbara will you please share a passage chosen for this special day.
Every person in our life is an invitation to know themselves and their Higher Power better.
We may understand this intellectually,
but it's all too easy to become self-absorbed and distant.
We see other people,
but not with our spirit-filled eyes;
we don't see them as emissaries of an Infinite Intelligence who have been sent to teach us about love.
More frequently, when we first really notice people around us,
we compare ourselves to them,
checking to see how we measure up physically, or intellectually or even spiritually.
Seldom does our first thought or action express unselfish love.
We may have to practice the act of loving for years before it comes naturally.
But it will become an automatic reaction in time,
just as anger, hatred, envy and fear may have been the automatic reactions in years past.
It's no accident that our paths are filled with people:
For it is through them our Higher Power reminds us to love,
and thus remember God.
Remembering Loved Ones Who Cannot be Present or Have Died
We now close our eyes and bring to mind any loved ones who could not be here today. Though they are absent physically, we invoke, through our thought and prayers, their loving presence. We pray that the blessings from these loved ones be multiplied beyond measure to this loving couple. There are also loved ones who are no longer here in body, but who are here in spirit. Let us remember them now in silence. (pause) Now, from our hearts, we ourselves visualize and sanctify all the blessings we would bestow on Lisa and Albert in their lives as a couple. And in our sincere desire to bless, we in turn, are blessed as well.
At this point we ask Harriet, Benito and Gloria to share prayers from each of their heritages. Harriet, the mother of the bride, will share the Hebrew prayer, shehekianu first in Hebrew and then translated into English. Following that, Benito and Gloria, the parents of the groom will share an Apache Indian prayer.
(Harriet and David and Gloria and Ben stay at the gazebo for candle lighting)
Candle Lighting Ceremony
Within each human being burns the spark of the Divine. When two people love one another with devotion and freedom, they kindle the awareness of that spark in each other as nothing else quite can do. The lighted candle is symbolic of the cosmic creation and the light and truth in the human heart, mind and soul. Fire symbolizes purity and passion.
Take into your beings the warmth, radiance and light that the divine flame represents. Let it light your way on the journey of life that you are about to embark on.
In committing to one another today, you kindle each other’s divine light and vow always to look for that light in one another, to nurture and tend that divine flame in your partner as best as you can each day - especially at the times it may be hardest to see, and the times your partner may doubt or forget the existence of that light within him or herself.
Harriet and David, please take this candle now and light it with your blessing for Lisa. (They light the votive with the white ribboned lighter)
Gloria and Ben, please take this candle now and light it with your blessing for Albert. (They light the votive with the white ribboned lighter)
Lisa and Albert, please light your candles from the ones blessed by your families and symbolically enter the sacred trust to honor the divine spark in each other by preparing to light the Unity candle from these representing the Divine Source. (They light their candles)
As you wish to affirm your free choice to unite as partners in marriage, please light the unlit candle together now. (They light unlit candle together) As you bring your individual flames together to symbolically form the new and greater flame of your marriage, never forget that the light of your union is made up of your unique, individual expressions of light and is continually sustained and renewed by your connection to the Divine Spark, the Eternal Flame.
The candle you lit together symbolizes your marriage, your willingness to surrender to something greater than yourselves. May the light of your marriage, Lisa and Albert, be a beacon in the night, a safe harbor from the storms of life. May your future be made infinitely brighter by the light and the love that you share.
The Hands Ceremony
Lisa and Albert, Please face each other and take each other’s hands, so that you may see the gift that they are to you.
These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow and forever.
These are the hands that will work along side yours as together you build your future.
These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch will comfort you like no other.
These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief temporarily comes your way.
These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes, tears of sorrow and tears of joy.
These are the hands that will give you support and encouragement to chase down your dreams.
These are the hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times.
These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.
These are the hands that will lift your chin and brush your cheek as they raise your face to look into eyes that are filled with overwhelming love for you.
And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.
Who gives this woman to be the bride of this man? Harriet and David stand up and say "We do" and then are seated.
Albert and Lisa have not come here tonight to make a solemn promise or to exchange a sacred vow.
Lisa and Albert have come here to make public their love for each other; to give noticement to their truth; to declare their choice to live and partner and grow together - out loud and in your presence, out of their desire that we will all come to feel a very real and intimate part of their decision, and thus make it even more powerful.
They've also come here tonight in the further hope that their ritual of bonding will help bring us all closer together. If you are here tonight with a spouse or partner, let this ceremony be a reminder - a rededication of your own loving bond.
We'll begin by asking the question: Why get married? Albert and Lisa have answered this question for themselves, and they've told me the answer. Now I want to ask them one more time, so they can be sure of their answer, certain of their understanding, and firm in their commitment to the truth they share.
Now Lisa and Albert, you have told me it is your firm understanding that you are not entering into this marriage for reasons of security . . .
. . . that the only real security is not in owning or possessing, nor in being owned or possessed . . . . .not in demanding or expecting, and not even in hoping, that what you think you need in life will be supplied by the other . . .
. . .but rather, in knowing that everything you need in life . . . all the love, all the wisdom, all the insight, all the power, all the knowledge, all the understanding, all the nurturing, all the compassion, and all the strength . . . resides within you . . .
. . . and that you are not marrying the other in hopes of getting these things, but in hopes of giving these gifts, that the other might have them in even greater abundance.
Is that your firm understanding tonight?
(They say, "It is.")
And Lisa and Albert, you have told me it is your firm understanding you are not entering into this marriage as a means of in any way limiting, controlling, hindering, or restricting each other from any true expression and honest celebration of that which is the highest and best within you - including your love of your Higher Power, your love of life, your love of people, your love of creativity, your love of work, or any aspect of your being which genuinely represents you, and brings you joy. Is that still your firm understanding tonight?
(They say, "It is.")
Finally, Lisa and Albert, you have said to me that you do not see marriage as producing obligations but rather as providing opportunities . . .
. . . opportunities for growth, for full Self-expression, for lifting your lives to their highest potential, for healing every false thought or small idea you ever had about yourself, and for ultimate reunion with Spirit through the communion of your two souls . . .
. . . that this is truly a Holy Communion . . . a journey through life with one you love as an equal partner, sharing equally both the authority and the responsibilities inherent in any partnership, bearing equally what burdens there be, basking equally in the glories.
Is that the vision you wish to enter into now?
(They say, "It is.")
What symbols do you bring as a reminder of the bond this ceremony celebrates today?
(Marc the best man hands both rings to Teresa, who holds them in her hand as she says . . .)
A circle is the symbol of the Sun, and the Earth, and the universe. It is a symbol of holiness, and of perfection and peace. It is also the symbol of the eternality of spiritual truth, love, and life . . . that which has no beginning and no end. And in this moment, Lisa and Albert choose for it to also be a symbol of unity, but not of possession; of joining, but not of restricting; of encirclement, but not of entrapment. For love cannot be possessed, nor can it be restricted. And the soul can never be entrapped.
Now Albert and Lisa, please take these rings you wish to give, one to the other.
(They take each other's rings.)
Albert, please repeat after me.
I, Albert . . . ask you, Lisa . . . to be my partner… my lover… my friend… and my wife . . . I hereby declare my intention… to give you my deepest friendship and love . . .not only when you remember Who You Are . . . but if you forget . . . and I affirm . . . before my higher power …and those here present . . . that I will continue to look to see… the Light of Divinity within you . . . and seek always to share . . . the Light of Divinity within me . It is my intention… to be with you forever . . . in a Holy Partnership of the Soul . . . that we may together do …what is for our highest good . . . sharing all the truth and love within us . . . with all those whose lives we touch.
(The minister turns to Lisa.)
Lisa, do you choose to grant Albert's request that you be his wife?
(She answers, "I do.")
Teresa hands Albert Lisa’s ring and says…
Please place the ring on Lisa’s finger and repeat after me.
With this ring I thee wed . . . I place this ring upon your hand . . . as a symbol that all may see and know . . . of my love for you.
Lisa, please repeat after me.
I, Lisa . . . ask you, Albert . . . to be my partner… my lover… my friend… and my husband . . . I hereby declare my intention… to give you my deepest friendship and love . . .not only when you remember Who You Are . . . but if you forget . . . and I affirm . . . before my higher power …and those here present . . . that I will continue to look to see… the Light of Divinity within you . . . and seek always to share . . . the Light of Divinity within me . It is my intention… to be with you forever . . . in a Holy Partnership of the Soul . . . that we may together do …what is for our highest good . . . sharing all the truth and love within us . . . with all those whose lives we touch.
(The minister turns to Albert.)
Albert, do you choose to grant Lisa's request that you be her husband?
(He answers, "I do.")
Teresa hands Lisa Albert’s ring and says…
Please place the ring on Albert’s finger and repeat after me.
With this ring I thee wed . . . I place this ring upon your hand . . .as a symbol that all may see and know . . . of my love for you.
(The minister closes . . .)
Forasmuch as you, Lisa and you, Albert, have openly declared your wishes to be united in marriage, and in the presence of these witnesses have pledged love to each other, and have confirmed the same by joining hands, exchanging rings and declaring your vows, I as a minister and legally authorized to do pronounce that you are now husband and wife. As kisses are messengers of love, please kiss now and let soul meet soul on each other’s lips.
Let us join now in prayer.
Spirit of Love and Life: out of this whole world, two souls have found each other. Their destinies shall now be woven into one design, and their perils and their joys shall not be known apart.
Albert and Lisa, may your home be a place of happiness for all who enter it; a place where the old and the young are renewed in each other's company, a place for growing and a place for sharing, a place for music and a place for laughter, a place for prayer and meditation and a place for love. May those who are nearest to you be constantly enriched by the beauty and the bounty of your love for one another, may your work be a joy of your life that serves the world, and may your days together be rewarding and enduring upon the Earth.